Sunday, January 10

Be TRUTHFULLY Honest!

What is the balance between living life the way you want to and adhering the advice and concerns of others?

I'm finding that the satisfaction I pledged to obey in 2010 is being challenged left and right by various people. It's only difficult because it comes from the mouths of loved ones. Those are the people you don't really want to disappoint. And I wonder, am I being stubborn and foolish, or is it just my confidence??

I find that what people suggest I be just doesn't fit who I want to be right now. I'm 20 years old, and I'm at a point in my life where I want to see certain things, try to do certain things, etc. And to manage my money like some or to have fun like some do....it doesn't work for me. What to do?

Don't mistake this for trying to live for anybody....it's just trying to figure out how to best live for myself. I can accept that I don't always know best...but when do I actually know what's best for me?


Help me figure this out you guys! Leave a comment. Message me. Text me. Call me...Just give me some answers. You can even answer anonymously if you have something to tell me about myself that you can't personally say.

Living. Loving. Forgiving.
♥ Shay

5 comments:

it'sok2bu*nique* said...

i just want to first say that you are not along in this journey...i feel like this like everyday

i am learning to simply listen to God...yes He can speak through others to you But sometimes you have to sit and silence and let Him speak to you...if you hear nothing then just know that He will let you know in due time meaning when the time is right for you to know whats best for you and the next steps you need to take in this thing called life.

i hoped that i have helped you in some type of way if not it will come to you in your time....dont worry and yes still listen to advice but dont make much of it...it will come to you


this is what keeps me going and staying semi-sane lol

Unknown said...

So from the perspective of the advice-giver: you know how I get onto you about time and money management. One, I know that you know that I'm doing it in love, two, I know that you're going to do what you want to do anyway. Three, I know that I can only say what I would do if I were you, at the same time realizing that I'm NOT you. All this being said, what I'm here for is to provide an outsider's perspective and I try to do that by observing patterns that you may not notice, share my experience with a similar situation, and encourage you to see how any given action might play out in the future. And that's because I love you and if I didn't, I wouldn't give a flying flip what you did. So, when it comes down to people that love you, it's not so much a matter of disappointing them as it is about respecting the fact that they love you and have your best interests at heart.

Now, from the perspective of the advice-seeker: the recent text conversation that you and I had about a certain friend of mine exemplifies a situation in which I feel the way I feel no matter what you or anyone else says about it, but at the same time, I realize the truth in what you're saying and I realize that I'm thinking with my heart and you're thinking with your brain because this time you're the outsider doing the observing and sharing advice and encouraging. And as I realize that you love me and have my best interest at heart, ever since that conversation, when I'm thinking about him and how I should be handling the situation, I recall what you said; it sticks with me and I don't disregard it, even if I don't want to accept it. And over the past week since you talked to me about how some of the things that I need to be doing on my end of the situation, I have been gaining a much more positive outlook and I feel so much more in contol of myself and my feelings.

So, I guess finding the balance between the two lies in knowing that only you can ultimately make the decisions that affect your success (and that's based on the power of your mindset outweighing any external circumstances) and realizing that the people who are invested in your success and happiness are not going to purposefully steer you wrong, and that deserves to have some weight in your decision.

.:.Simply Shay.:. said...

it'sok2bu*nique* -- thanks so much for the advice. It's good to know that i'm not the only one struggling with it. Listening is probably the way to go...except sometimes I'm hard-headed and don't want to do what he says.

Audrey--I love you for letting me to do what I want, though I never really thought of myself as that stubborn until you put it that way. And I guess since people have been bringing things to my attention, it hasn't directly changed how I felt about certain situations, but it has factored my response to things lately. It's still me, with tiny contributing voices in the background. I pay them attention now, knowing that the concern is genuine, not just people trying to control me.

I guess I'm so know to being in so much control of my life. I've had plenty of years of my mom and dad and other adults making choices for me that to finally have the chance to make these choices myself and it seems people are still trying to tell me what to do...well it isn't what I was expecting...

ah growth. ♥ Gotta love it.

Thank you ladies!

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